The Biggest Lessons I’ve Learned Over Forty Years Of Life
I must be honest, I am so excited to be turning 40 years old this month! As I reflect over the last forty years of my life, I can’t help but thank God for all his many blessings and for keeping me. There were so many times I wanted to give up, but God kept me in his arms close.
Over the last forty years, I have experienced some amazing things, but I have also experienced some trials. Today I want to share with you five of the lessons I have learned over the last forty years and hopefully this will be a blessing to you as well.
1. Always put God first in your life. God is the only who will see you through any situation in your life. I accepted Christ at an early age, but I wasn’t living for Christ. It was not until I had my son Donnie and I almost died during childbirth that I fully began to live for God. Sometimes God will get our attention whatever way he needs to, so we can draw closer to him.
2. Trust the process. There are times in life where we experience trials and disappointments and we don’t fully understand what God is doing. We might not always understand, but we must trust God as our father. He will never leave us nor forsake us. I didn’t understand why I had a stillborn birth instead of having a healthy child with my husband, but I had to trust God in that process. Out of that process, I started doing the things God called me to do at a greater level.
3. Forgiveness is the key to freedom. Walking in forgiveness is the only way to truly live life. It’s not about the other person, it’s about you. I had to walk in forgiveness with my Dad.
My biological father did not raise me and that really made me feel insecure and unwanted at times. I had to forgive him in order to move forward in my life. I had to let go of him not being there for me. I had to walk in forgiveness so I could be free.
Free is a feeling of peace and serenity. When you are walking in unforgiveness it really keeps you bound and shackled. I knew I didn’t want to walk through life looking good but bound by hurt and unforgiveness. So, I prayed and asked God to help me knowing I could not do it on my own.
4. Delay is not denial. I have learned over the years that a delay in the blessing is not God denying the blessing. I have prayed for so many things in my life and they didn’t happen overnight. It took some time, it took some sweat, and it took some tears. Refusing to give up on what God has shown me, I keep going. At times it looked like the blessing wouldn’t happen, but God delivered.
I can recall failing out of nursing school and sitting out of the program for a whole year. It was devastating, it was hurtful, I wanted to give up, but God delivered. He showed me in this situation that delay is not God’s denial. Today, I have been a nurse for almost 12 years working for some of the most elite hospitals and fortune 5 companies in the world.
This is truly a testimony that God can do anything but fail.
5. Be careful who you allow in your circle. I have learned over the last 40 years that you have to be careful who you surround yourself with. Everyone is not around you or in your corner for the right reason. Some people are around you for what they can get. I learned this the hard way. I am a person who loves people. I love to connect with people and pour into others and this sometimes has been hard when I allow people to get too close to me too fast.
After the fact, I would notice they were with me for the wrong reasons. Their negative spirits were toxic. This then turned into them being resentful or envious and it wasn’t a pretty sight.
Wisdom and God’s discernment has taught me to move slower with people and to trust what my spirit is telling me. I’ve learned now not to rationalize and make excuses for people who are not divinely connected to me or sent by God.
These are just a few of the lessons I wanted to share with you. I will be releasing an E-book soon that will share the entire 40 lessons I have learned over 40 years of life. Stay tuned for more details to come.